Now don't look at me that way. I know this isn't a popular subject but when you need the information you need it. So here is one checklist to come to should a death occur in your family, friend or acquaintance's family. I hope you will take this the right way and know that I'm providing it to help.  I lost my dad in 1981 and was at a loss as to what to do. This list would have come in handy to me back then. That's why I've decided to post it here.
                                                                     
 A Checklist When Death Occurs
  • Contact the funeral home. The funeral home will help coordinate many items and give you advice. They will arrange to pickup the body after the proper release forms have been signed. If you previously made cemetery arrangements the funeral home will help, or if you have not previously made interment arrangements the funeral home can assist as well. 
  • Contact your minister, priest or rabbi. He/she will advise you on the religious traditions you may wish to observe and church/synagogue services or memorials.
  • Obtain death certificates.The funeral home will assist you. A doctor or coroner must certify the cause of death. Some information needed to complete most states vital statistic requirements:
    • Death Date/Time
    • Death place (city/county)
    • Birth Date
    • Birthplace
    • Father's Name
    • Mother's Maiden Name
    • Social Security Number
    • Veteran's Discharge or Claim Number
    • Education
    • Marital Status
  • Determine obituary information. This includes age, common residence(s), place of birth, cause of death, occupation, education/schools attended, memberships held, military service, outstanding work, and a list of survivors in immediate family. Specify a charity(s) to which gifts may be made. The funeral home will normally compile the information and submit it to newspapers along with the scheduled time and place of services.
  • Determine who should be notified of death. Make a list of family members, close friends, employer or business colleagues, or anyone you believe should be notified or may want to attend the service. Notify each by phone. Prepare a list of out of area people to be notified by letter and/or printed notice, and decide which to send to each.
  • Arrange a coordinator for condolences/memorials. Arrange for someone to answer door or phone, noting calls and memorial gifts, coordinating contributors, house cleaning, etc.
  • Help visitors. Coordinate the supplying of food for the next several days, arrange for child care, if necessary, arrange hospitality for visiting relatives and friends.
  • Locate the will and notify lawyer and executor.
  • Notify insurance companies. Check carefully all life and casualty insurance and death benefits, including Social Security, credit union, trade union, fraternal, and military/Veterans Adminstration. Check also on income for survivors from these sources.
  • Notify Benefits/Billing Companies. If Social Security checks are automatically deposited notify the bank of the death. Check promptly on all debts and installment payments, including credit cards. Some may carry insurance clauses that will cancel them. If there is to be a delay in meeting payments, consult with creditors and ask for more time before the payments are due.
  • Close accounts/change address. Notify utilities, landlord, credit card companies, banks, magazines, clubs/memberships, etc and tell post office where to send mail.
  • Select pallbearers.
  • Send acknowledgments. Send appropriate acknowledgments to people who have sent sympathies, attended the funeral, made charitable contributions, and to those who have given their time and assistance.
The Funeral Director will prepare Social Security Form SSA 721 to see that the deceased social security number is retired.